Mom went into the hospital on Monday. They were going to put her in ICU but decided to give her a regular room for now so that family can come and visit her. We still don't know very much, and they haven't done any surgeries on her yet, possibly will be doing one on Friday. From what I've heard from what MrKB's found out, there is even more than the 3 masses already found. He talked to her this morning, and she herself doesn't know anything. The hospital has been running like a gazillion tests on her, and still has tests to run, but they haven't been telling her the results of any of them. She says her doctor keeps beating around the bush about it, and it's pissing her off. I don't blame her! The not knowing would drive me insane. She talked to the hospital administrator and told him that she can't take the being kept in the dark and that she wants to know everything step by step, not when they finally finish all the freaking tests.
I don't think I've ever had a more stressful few weeks in my life. Hubby is still quite upset, and has broke down a couple times. I haven't cried much yet...I feel like I need to be the strong one this time, for him. He actually said at one point while in tears, "I'm not ready to lose my Mama." He's NEVER called her Mama in all the time we've been together! It really broke my heart to hear my husband, who has always been so strong for me, sound like such a lost little boy! All I could do was wrap my arms around him and hold him close. I can't fix this for him, and I hate it!
On top of everything else, we still have her kids staying with us. Two extra kids (ages 10 and 9) and that means more food to buy...more laundry to do...more overall aggravation. They don't have any idea what all is going on yet, we haven't told them. All they know is that Mom is sick and has to be in the hospital for a bit. I'm guessing they'll be staying with us indefinitely. They have school, and their Dad goes to work hours before they leave and gets off work hours after they get out. Then of course Mom needs him with her at the hospital as much as he can.
Insert big sigh here...
Oh yeah...I got the first couple of bills from my own hospital stay...$866 for anesthesia?!!? WTF?? and something like $349 for the CT scan they did on my belly. Already over $1,000 worth of bills, and that's not counting the ones I'll be getting from the hospital itself....or the doctors....Good grief.
Please...we need all the prayers we can get!! And if you wanna send me money, that helps too! (only halfway joking there...but I don't expect it, really! This is definitely a time when I wish there was such a thing as a Money Tree!)
Anyway, I'll let y'all know when I know....Thank you all for the comments on my last post! Oh, and I'll let you know about the drama filled weekend, sometime soon...that happened the one BEFORE I had my surgery. It was a doozy, lemme tell you. I've had a post about it in draft, but I haven't got around to finishing it yet. I will tell you this much...I literally lost my best friend.
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Call the hospital and speak to someone in billing, ask about their charity plans and how to apply for your bill to be written off. There may be some hoops to jump but it might just be worth it! Your caseworker for the girls should be able to tell you who to contact at her agency for medical assistance too (although it might be a stretch for your particular caseworker!)
I just might do that whenever I finally get the bills from them. Right now all I have is from outside companies for the anesthesia and radiology.
As for a caseworker...right now the girls more or less don't have one! The one we've been dealing with got a new job and quit! No idea who the new one will be yet, but hopefully she's competent!
I'm so sorry you all are having to go through this. When my late wife was diagnosed with brain cancer, they didn't tell us it was terminal until the first brain surgery was done. My prayers are with you.
Oh sweetie! I'm so sorry. Try to keep you head up and know that things will get better.
I know what Mrs Coach means, they call it Med-Pay here and did that for my 12,000 hospital bill. I do have a 525.00 for my doctor, the CT and the MRI but my doctor's office lets me make payments on that.
That'a part of give and take in a relationship and you've stepped up admirably for him. The fact that you recognize that he's always been the strong one and he knows he can rely on you speaks volumes. Take care and prayers are coming your way.
Honey I am so sorry. ((hug)) I wish there was more I could do. I know this is a very rough time and you want to stay strong for MrKB so if you need to vent, scream or breakdown we are all here for you.
I'm truly sorry to hear how tough it has been! You stay strong! Hugs !
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time. There's no such thing as too many hugs to help get you through
Sorry to hear you are still having such a rough time. You know we are here praying for you guys.
Hi, just checking in on your mom in law.
Take care.
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