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Saw this at Kali's
Tuesday, November 15, 2005
My Life
Saw this at Kali's
Monday, November 14, 2005
My Weekend
Let's see...Friday MrKB and I took the kids to Grandma's for the night so we could go out...spent WAY too much money, but had a good time.
Since she watched ours, we took hers for Saturday. After we went and picked up 5yr old for his visit, we swung by to pick up our niece and nephew. Visit went fine, except when it was time for him to have his breathing treatment we found that the medicine for the machine wasn't there, so we ended up having to take him home early so he could get his medicine he needed. We kinda think his foster mom only acted like she was putting his medicine in there, so we would HAVE to bring him home early. He was not happy he had to leave, and cried about it.
Sunday we had a "family team meeting" with our counselors and such. Found out that 5yr old's foster family DOES still want to adopt him and they are going to fight for him. I hate people that lie. They told us they wanted to make this as easy as possible for him and that they weren't going to fight for him. We had already figured for ourselves that they were probably only saying this so we'd let our guard down. I've got news for them...it ain't happening!! We are a lot smarter than they are apparently giving us credit for, and will be contacting that lawyer for sure now. DAMN IT!!! We go to court on the 17th about the kids...probably nothing really will be done at this time, but we'll see what happens. How can they not want him to be with FAMILY that loves him?? Not just MrKB and me, but his grandparents, cousins, etc. Ugh...
Sunday night around 10:30, 2 yr old started puking. Fun. She's 2, so she would just pretty much let it go right where she was at. Guess who got to clean it up after every time? Yep, me.
I did two loads of laundry in the middle of the freakin' night just of stuff she'd puked on. Two sets of bed stuff, four pillows, 3 blankets, and 2 sets of jammies. I finally just left her in her pull-up so I didn't have to keep taking pukey clothes off of her. After she puked on the couch, I got smart and laid down towels under her so if she did it again it'd be on towels and not the furniture. She had a trashcan next to her to puke in, but I guess she didn't get the concept. I tried to tell her "If your tummy is gonna come out your mouth, put it in the trash" but nooooo.
I was in a pretty crappy mood yesterday...short-tempered and cranky. Figured it was PMS, and I was right. Aunt Flo came to visit this morning....the bitch! I'm not feeling real well today either...hope I'm not getting whatever 2 yr old has. My tummy didn't feel so well last night either, but I think that was more from having to keep cleaning up puke. Ugh.
So anyway...my friend Warlock over at The Chronicles of Chaos made a little quiz that I took today, but I can't get the code for my results to copy and paste so I can show y'all. http://warlocksrealm.homeip.net/blog/ Get on over there and check it out, he worked hard on it!
Since she watched ours, we took hers for Saturday. After we went and picked up 5yr old for his visit, we swung by to pick up our niece and nephew. Visit went fine, except when it was time for him to have his breathing treatment we found that the medicine for the machine wasn't there, so we ended up having to take him home early so he could get his medicine he needed. We kinda think his foster mom only acted like she was putting his medicine in there, so we would HAVE to bring him home early. He was not happy he had to leave, and cried about it.
Sunday we had a "family team meeting" with our counselors and such. Found out that 5yr old's foster family DOES still want to adopt him and they are going to fight for him. I hate people that lie. They told us they wanted to make this as easy as possible for him and that they weren't going to fight for him. We had already figured for ourselves that they were probably only saying this so we'd let our guard down. I've got news for them...it ain't happening!! We are a lot smarter than they are apparently giving us credit for, and will be contacting that lawyer for sure now. DAMN IT!!! We go to court on the 17th about the kids...probably nothing really will be done at this time, but we'll see what happens. How can they not want him to be with FAMILY that loves him?? Not just MrKB and me, but his grandparents, cousins, etc. Ugh...
Sunday night around 10:30, 2 yr old started puking. Fun. She's 2, so she would just pretty much let it go right where she was at. Guess who got to clean it up after every time? Yep, me.
I did two loads of laundry in the middle of the freakin' night just of stuff she'd puked on. Two sets of bed stuff, four pillows, 3 blankets, and 2 sets of jammies. I finally just left her in her pull-up so I didn't have to keep taking pukey clothes off of her. After she puked on the couch, I got smart and laid down towels under her so if she did it again it'd be on towels and not the furniture. She had a trashcan next to her to puke in, but I guess she didn't get the concept. I tried to tell her "If your tummy is gonna come out your mouth, put it in the trash" but nooooo.
I was in a pretty crappy mood yesterday...short-tempered and cranky. Figured it was PMS, and I was right. Aunt Flo came to visit this morning....the bitch! I'm not feeling real well today either...hope I'm not getting whatever 2 yr old has. My tummy didn't feel so well last night either, but I think that was more from having to keep cleaning up puke. Ugh.
So anyway...my friend Warlock over at The Chronicles of Chaos made a little quiz that I took today, but I can't get the code for my results to copy and paste so I can show y'all. http://warlocksrealm.homeip.net/blog/ Get on over there and check it out, he worked hard on it!
Saturday, November 12, 2005
WTF???
Why the hell does my blogroll keep disappearing?!?! How am I supposed to keep up my blog reading????
Friday, November 11, 2005
Flip, Pick, and Riff
So, it happened...I got tagged by Goobergrl in this game, started by lecram. (Sorry y'all I haven't figured out how to link in my posts yet.) Anyway, here it goes... ... As per the rules on lecram's blog:
1. FLIP: open a dictionary and point to a word.
2. Type the word into Google images.
3. PICK an image that strikes you.
4. Write a 10 line RIFF of the image.
5. Use the word or the meaning of the word at least once within the first 5 lines of your riff.
6. Tag 3 other bloggers on your list.
My Word: fair
It was that time of year again, time for the county fair! As I made my way to the entrance gate I could already smell the familiar smells of my childhood memories. Turkey legs, corn dogs, funnel cakes...YUM! It seemed that no matter how old I was, every year I felt like a kid again the minute I walked through that gate.
Only this time, I had kids of my own. "Mommy! Mommy!" they say..."We want to go ride the Tilt-a-Whirl!" Ugh...I hate that ride! It never fails to make me so dizzy that I throw up whatever delicious fair food I'd already eaten. Oh well, the kids hadn't eaten yet, so I guess it was okay for them to ride. "Okay" I said, as I took hold of their hands, "You can ride it, but don't blame me if you get sick!"
Ok...I tag: Signgurl, Hillbilly Mom, and mdrock! Have fun!
1. FLIP: open a dictionary and point to a word.
2. Type the word into Google images.
3. PICK an image that strikes you.
4. Write a 10 line RIFF of the image.
5. Use the word or the meaning of the word at least once within the first 5 lines of your riff.
6. Tag 3 other bloggers on your list.
My Word: fair
It was that time of year again, time for the county fair! As I made my way to the entrance gate I could already smell the familiar smells of my childhood memories. Turkey legs, corn dogs, funnel cakes...YUM! It seemed that no matter how old I was, every year I felt like a kid again the minute I walked through that gate.Only this time, I had kids of my own. "Mommy! Mommy!" they say..."We want to go ride the Tilt-a-Whirl!" Ugh...I hate that ride! It never fails to make me so dizzy that I throw up whatever delicious fair food I'd already eaten. Oh well, the kids hadn't eaten yet, so I guess it was okay for them to ride. "Okay" I said, as I took hold of their hands, "You can ride it, but don't blame me if you get sick!"
Ok...I tag: Signgurl, Hillbilly Mom, and mdrock! Have fun!
Wednesday, November 09, 2005
My 4th Half-Nekkid Thursday
Wow..fourth one already?! Time flies, huh?
So, anyway...I got this tat when I was in San Diego with my fiance at the time...He was in the Navy going through his 'A' School. I love koalas, so naturally I picked this one. Yes, his name was Jim...no, that's not my husband's name. Shouldn't have done it, I know. BUT, My Granddad's name is Jim and HE was in the Navy, so now I just say it's in honor of him! LOL
Gonna get the name part covered up eventually...just gotta figure out how. Any ideas? Oh, in case you wondered, it's on my upper left thigh.
HAPPY HNT!
To find out all about HNT, click the red button on the right and go see Osbasso!
Tuesday, November 08, 2005
100 Things You Might Not Know About Me
Ok, so I've had a few shots of tequila, and now I'm bored 'cuz everyone is asleep, and it's not even 10pm yet. Soooo...thought I'd see if I could come up with 100 interesting (or maybe not) facts about me. You might already know some of them if you read my blog regularly, but remember I'm coming up with 100 things people! I'm bound to not make a lot of sense sometimes.
Anyway, here goes: (no particular order...just as they come to mind)
1. My favorite animal is the Koala...hence the "KBear" part of my blog name.
2. I got married on Valentine's Day 1995. I chose this date for two reasons...one, 'cuz I always wanted to be married on that day, and two, because MrKB sucks at remembering dates and I knew he'd never forget an anniversary since VDay is advertised like crazy starting the day after Christmas.
3. I have one younger sister. No brothers.
4. When my sister had a baby before I did, it REALLY depressed me. Especially since she always said she didn't want any kids. Then she got pregnant again like a year later. I felt like I got punched in the stomach when Mom told me.
5. I got pregnant once...way back in 1993...had a miscarriage on August 8, 1993...haven't been pregnant since, and not for lack of trying! (Funny how a woman will remember dates like that, isn't it?)
6. I was in a relationship with someone else when my husband and I started seeing each other.
7. He had gone into the Navy...MrKB was my friend that obviously developed into something more...he made me realize that the guy I was with I didn't want to marry.
8. I don't regret my decision to leave him at all. He wasn't abusive or anything, just not the right guy for me to spend my life with.
9. I have never cheated on my husband. I don't have to, he gives me everything I need.
10. I trust my husband not to cheat on me...every now and then he goes out with "the boys" and they will end up out at a titty bar...his friends are always surprised I'll let him go. I trust him...he goes out, has a good time, a few drinks, may get a little horny, but he always comes home to me and wants to play!
11. I played the violin for six years as a child. From 1st grade until 6th. Sometimes I wish I hadn't quit.
12. I am mostly deaf.
13. I lost the hearing in my left ear at 3 yrs old due to pneumonia. When I was 10 the hearing in my right ear just went...doctors don't know why. I just remember being in 4th grade, sitting at the back of the classroom like always, and suddenly realizing I couldn't hear what the teacher was saying up in front of the class...I could see her talking, but couldn't hear her.
14. I have worn a hearing aid in that ear for almost 24 years now.
15. I can only hear very loud sounds without it, like a door slamming.
16. I often wish I didn't have to have it.
17. I have perfect eyesight though!
18. Once, not too long ago, I was getting ready to take a shower...had just gone to the bathroom and flushed the toilet..was taking off my hearing aid, and it fell into the toilet WHILE IT WAS STILL FLUSHING!! OMG I freaked out. Very expensive accident. The type of hearing aid I wear is like 1,200 bucks.
19. I went to speech classes for two years after I lost my hearing, so I could learn to lip-read and not forget sounds that are hard for me now, like S's.
20. I don't know sign language except for the alphabet and some words or phrases.
21. I was reading by the time I was 3 years old. Mom says she came into my room where I had the comics page of the paper, she thought I was just making up words then realized I was actually reading.
22. I watched a lot of Sesame Street and the Electric Company (anyone remember that show?) when I was little.
23. Reading and spelling always came easy for me in school.
24. When I was in 1st grade I was ahead of the class in reading, and there was an old-fashioned claw foot bathtub in the middle of the big room of four divided classrooms...While the class worked on their reading I would go kick back in the tub full of pillows and read.
25. To this day I read in the bathtub...it's one of my favorite ways to relax.
26. I suck at math and history.
27. I worked in a daycare for 3 years. I had the 4-5yr olds. 15 to 17 of them 40 hrs a week.
28. That job taught me patience. Was also the best job ever.
29. I am very shy when I first meet people. Unfortunately I've been considered "stuck up" because of this.
30. I didn't become shy until after I lost my hearing. Kids can be cruel.
31. I hate mean people.
32. I hate brussels sprouts.
33. I hate cooked carrots. I will even pick them out of a pot pie before I will eat it. Raw carrots are fine.
34. I REALLY hate hominy. I had an aunt that forced me and my sister to eat them once. My mom never fixed it, and I didn't like it.
35. I played soccer as a kid...missed a lot of the games due to chicken pox though....played it in high school, but quit 'cuz the coach was an asshole.
36. Speaking of high school...I lost my virginity when I was 17.
37. I don't regret it...I was never one of those wait til marriage people.
38. I don't believe in the Christian God...he's failed me too many times. I believe in a higher power though, just not necessarily "God". Please don't judge me on this one.
39. Speaking of religion...I hate it when someone has a "holier than thou" attitude and tries to push their beliefs on me. Hello Jehovah's Witnesses.
40. I only have a couple of close friends.
41. I guess it's just hard for me to let people in.
42. This list is gonna be harder than I thought.
43. I hate winter and cold weather.
44. But I like to snow ski...too bad you can't in Oklahoma.
45. Last time I water skiied I tore a muscle that took forever to heal.
46. I've never broken any bones.
47. I cracked my ribs on the side of the bathtub once though.
48. I was born with red hair.
49. Then it turned blonde.
50. Now it is (natually) brown.
51. I have green eyes. I think they are my best feature.
52. I collect Beanie Babies. I have well over 300 of them. I don't collect them as fanatically as I did before I went on the road with MrKB...I got behind then.
53. MrKB is a truck driver.
54. When he worked for Swift, before all this with the kids came up, I rode with him.
55. I loved the traveling, and not knowing where we'd go next.
56. I have been to almost every state, with the exception of North Dakota, Alaska, and Hawaii.
57. My favorite state is New Mexico.
58. I also love the desert.
59. I like to crosstitch.
60. I love to go camping at the lake...in a tent, not an RV.
61. I love to go fishing, but I don't like worms, or actually touching a fish...I saw my uncle get finned by a fish when I was a kid...It made him bleed, and I could tell he wanted to cry. That makes an impression on you.
62. If I have to touch the fish I catch, I have on gloves.
63. I will not swim in the ocean...too scared of sharks.
64. I don't like to swim in a lake either...I don't like when I can't see what's in the water.
65. I have had sex in a hot tub with snow on the ground.
66. Stephen King is my favorite author.
67. I collect hardcover Stephen King books.
68. My Mom made me take typing in 7th grade. This was before the days of the internet.
69. I'm glad she did.
70. MrKB and I are in the process of trying to get our two nieces and a nephew adopted.
71. We are currently foster parents.
72. If you read my blog, you already know that.
73. In a way, I'm glad my BIL is a drug-addicted screw up...I am getting the kids I wasn't able to have myself.
74. I love stand-up comedy...I love to laugh.
75. My favorite comedian is Bill Engvall from the Blue Collar Comedy Tour. (Here's your sign!)
76. I also like Jeff Foxworthy.
77. I consider myself a redneck woman.
78. I used to live in a small town of 1,002 people.
79. When I drink, I like to drink tequila.
80. I hate beer.
81. I wish pot was legal.
82. Yes, I used to smoke it.
83. My parents smoked it when I was a kid.
84. I never claimed to be an angel.
85. The Breakfast Club is one of my all time favorite movies.
86. I used to have a crush on Emilio Estevez.
87. I am an 80's child.
88. I used to be Madonna's biggest fan.
89. I like country music now. Still love 80s music though.
90. Tears for Fears was the first concert I ever went to. I was in 7th grade.
91. Poison used to be my favorite band. I had it bad for Bret Michaels.
92. I love long hair on a guy...I think it's sexy.
93. I hate facial hair though.
94. I love being a Mommy...even if I didn't have them myself.
95. When I was younger I wanted to be an archaeologist.
96. Now when I grow up I want to be a Kindergarten teacher.
97. I am addicted to Coke Classic...I drink at least 6 cans a day.
98. I found out I am allergic to sulfa drugs after getting a nasty kidney infection.
99. I love cats...I had a cat for five years, from the day she was born...she rode on the truck with us...we had to get rid of her because of 5yr old's asthma and allergies. 2 yr old is allergic to them too. I really miss my kitty...she was my baby before I had any babies.
100. If Osbasso ever comes by my blog, I wish he'd say so. I guess I understand if he doesn't make it to my little place...he's got a longer blogroll than me.
WHEW...I'm done!
Anyway, here goes: (no particular order...just as they come to mind)
1. My favorite animal is the Koala...hence the "KBear" part of my blog name.
2. I got married on Valentine's Day 1995. I chose this date for two reasons...one, 'cuz I always wanted to be married on that day, and two, because MrKB sucks at remembering dates and I knew he'd never forget an anniversary since VDay is advertised like crazy starting the day after Christmas.
3. I have one younger sister. No brothers.
4. When my sister had a baby before I did, it REALLY depressed me. Especially since she always said she didn't want any kids. Then she got pregnant again like a year later. I felt like I got punched in the stomach when Mom told me.
5. I got pregnant once...way back in 1993...had a miscarriage on August 8, 1993...haven't been pregnant since, and not for lack of trying! (Funny how a woman will remember dates like that, isn't it?)
6. I was in a relationship with someone else when my husband and I started seeing each other.
7. He had gone into the Navy...MrKB was my friend that obviously developed into something more...he made me realize that the guy I was with I didn't want to marry.
8. I don't regret my decision to leave him at all. He wasn't abusive or anything, just not the right guy for me to spend my life with.
9. I have never cheated on my husband. I don't have to, he gives me everything I need.
10. I trust my husband not to cheat on me...every now and then he goes out with "the boys" and they will end up out at a titty bar...his friends are always surprised I'll let him go. I trust him...he goes out, has a good time, a few drinks, may get a little horny, but he always comes home to me and wants to play!
11. I played the violin for six years as a child. From 1st grade until 6th. Sometimes I wish I hadn't quit.
12. I am mostly deaf.
13. I lost the hearing in my left ear at 3 yrs old due to pneumonia. When I was 10 the hearing in my right ear just went...doctors don't know why. I just remember being in 4th grade, sitting at the back of the classroom like always, and suddenly realizing I couldn't hear what the teacher was saying up in front of the class...I could see her talking, but couldn't hear her.
14. I have worn a hearing aid in that ear for almost 24 years now.
15. I can only hear very loud sounds without it, like a door slamming.
16. I often wish I didn't have to have it.
17. I have perfect eyesight though!
18. Once, not too long ago, I was getting ready to take a shower...had just gone to the bathroom and flushed the toilet..was taking off my hearing aid, and it fell into the toilet WHILE IT WAS STILL FLUSHING!! OMG I freaked out. Very expensive accident. The type of hearing aid I wear is like 1,200 bucks.
19. I went to speech classes for two years after I lost my hearing, so I could learn to lip-read and not forget sounds that are hard for me now, like S's.
20. I don't know sign language except for the alphabet and some words or phrases.
21. I was reading by the time I was 3 years old. Mom says she came into my room where I had the comics page of the paper, she thought I was just making up words then realized I was actually reading.
22. I watched a lot of Sesame Street and the Electric Company (anyone remember that show?) when I was little.
23. Reading and spelling always came easy for me in school.
24. When I was in 1st grade I was ahead of the class in reading, and there was an old-fashioned claw foot bathtub in the middle of the big room of four divided classrooms...While the class worked on their reading I would go kick back in the tub full of pillows and read.
25. To this day I read in the bathtub...it's one of my favorite ways to relax.
26. I suck at math and history.
27. I worked in a daycare for 3 years. I had the 4-5yr olds. 15 to 17 of them 40 hrs a week.
28. That job taught me patience. Was also the best job ever.
29. I am very shy when I first meet people. Unfortunately I've been considered "stuck up" because of this.
30. I didn't become shy until after I lost my hearing. Kids can be cruel.
31. I hate mean people.
32. I hate brussels sprouts.
33. I hate cooked carrots. I will even pick them out of a pot pie before I will eat it. Raw carrots are fine.
34. I REALLY hate hominy. I had an aunt that forced me and my sister to eat them once. My mom never fixed it, and I didn't like it.
35. I played soccer as a kid...missed a lot of the games due to chicken pox though....played it in high school, but quit 'cuz the coach was an asshole.
36. Speaking of high school...I lost my virginity when I was 17.
37. I don't regret it...I was never one of those wait til marriage people.
38. I don't believe in the Christian God...he's failed me too many times. I believe in a higher power though, just not necessarily "God". Please don't judge me on this one.
39. Speaking of religion...I hate it when someone has a "holier than thou" attitude and tries to push their beliefs on me. Hello Jehovah's Witnesses.
40. I only have a couple of close friends.
41. I guess it's just hard for me to let people in.
42. This list is gonna be harder than I thought.
43. I hate winter and cold weather.
44. But I like to snow ski...too bad you can't in Oklahoma.
45. Last time I water skiied I tore a muscle that took forever to heal.
46. I've never broken any bones.
47. I cracked my ribs on the side of the bathtub once though.
48. I was born with red hair.
49. Then it turned blonde.
50. Now it is (natually) brown.
51. I have green eyes. I think they are my best feature.
52. I collect Beanie Babies. I have well over 300 of them. I don't collect them as fanatically as I did before I went on the road with MrKB...I got behind then.
53. MrKB is a truck driver.
54. When he worked for Swift, before all this with the kids came up, I rode with him.
55. I loved the traveling, and not knowing where we'd go next.
56. I have been to almost every state, with the exception of North Dakota, Alaska, and Hawaii.
57. My favorite state is New Mexico.
58. I also love the desert.
59. I like to crosstitch.
60. I love to go camping at the lake...in a tent, not an RV.
61. I love to go fishing, but I don't like worms, or actually touching a fish...I saw my uncle get finned by a fish when I was a kid...It made him bleed, and I could tell he wanted to cry. That makes an impression on you.
62. If I have to touch the fish I catch, I have on gloves.
63. I will not swim in the ocean...too scared of sharks.
64. I don't like to swim in a lake either...I don't like when I can't see what's in the water.
65. I have had sex in a hot tub with snow on the ground.
66. Stephen King is my favorite author.
67. I collect hardcover Stephen King books.
68. My Mom made me take typing in 7th grade. This was before the days of the internet.
69. I'm glad she did.
70. MrKB and I are in the process of trying to get our two nieces and a nephew adopted.
71. We are currently foster parents.
72. If you read my blog, you already know that.
73. In a way, I'm glad my BIL is a drug-addicted screw up...I am getting the kids I wasn't able to have myself.
74. I love stand-up comedy...I love to laugh.
75. My favorite comedian is Bill Engvall from the Blue Collar Comedy Tour. (Here's your sign!)
76. I also like Jeff Foxworthy.
77. I consider myself a redneck woman.
78. I used to live in a small town of 1,002 people.
79. When I drink, I like to drink tequila.
80. I hate beer.
81. I wish pot was legal.
82. Yes, I used to smoke it.
83. My parents smoked it when I was a kid.
84. I never claimed to be an angel.
85. The Breakfast Club is one of my all time favorite movies.
86. I used to have a crush on Emilio Estevez.
87. I am an 80's child.
88. I used to be Madonna's biggest fan.
89. I like country music now. Still love 80s music though.
90. Tears for Fears was the first concert I ever went to. I was in 7th grade.
91. Poison used to be my favorite band. I had it bad for Bret Michaels.
92. I love long hair on a guy...I think it's sexy.
93. I hate facial hair though.
94. I love being a Mommy...even if I didn't have them myself.
95. When I was younger I wanted to be an archaeologist.
96. Now when I grow up I want to be a Kindergarten teacher.
97. I am addicted to Coke Classic...I drink at least 6 cans a day.
98. I found out I am allergic to sulfa drugs after getting a nasty kidney infection.
99. I love cats...I had a cat for five years, from the day she was born...she rode on the truck with us...we had to get rid of her because of 5yr old's asthma and allergies. 2 yr old is allergic to them too. I really miss my kitty...she was my baby before I had any babies.
100. If Osbasso ever comes by my blog, I wish he'd say so. I guess I understand if he doesn't make it to my little place...he's got a longer blogroll than me.
WHEW...I'm done!
Breaking News
I really didn't know what to call this post, so it's just "Breaking News"...LOL
Anyway, we didn't end up talking to our lawyer yesterday. The DHS caseworker is supposed to be putting together a "Grand Staffing" meeting for the 14th...this is a meeting with EVERYONE involved, except maybe the judge. We're going to see how things go with that first, then if we need to we'll get the lawyer involved.
The therapist...I really don't know about her...Seems like everytime we go up there for a counseling appointment, she only talks to us for a few minutes then leaves the room for most of the hour to let us "play" with 5yr old. I know she's just going on the other side of the one-way mirror and observing. Fine. But is it really necessary every time we go to these appointments?
She doesn't get to see me interact with him much. It's not that I don't, it's just I know she's watching, ya know? MrKB does typical boy stuff with him while we're there. What am I gonna do? Ask him if he wants to play Barbies?? It's a little more difficult for me to find something to do with a little boy. I'm used to girls! But I digress...
The therapist keeps saying "they" are concerned about my "bonding" with 5yr old. Apparently he will talk about MrKB, but doesn't say anything about me. SO???? To them this means we're not bonding, I guess. I think they are making a big deal out of nothing, myself. I'M not worried about "bonding" with him...Once he lives with us permanently, I will be the one he is around most of the time, since MrKB goes off to work everyday. We will bond just fine. What difference does it make if it's now or after he lives with us?!? I don't understand people sometimes. It's not like I don't do anything at all with this child. We decorated Halloween cookies, we've colored in color books together...etc. Personally, I think this therapist has developed too much of a bond herself with 5yr old and his foster mother. She keeps saying how "attached" he is to his current foster mom. Yeah, of course he is, he's been there a little over a year. But I bet she didn't have to "bond" with him before DHS moved him in with HER. Hell no...she did all the bonding AFTER he was there. One thing I should have thought to mention to the therapist...5yr old has NEVER talked about his current foster mom when he is with us. Wonder what she would have thought about that!
Anyway...MrKB also called and talked to the DHS caseworker yesterday. We have been doing Saturday visits for quite awhile now with 5yr old...was supposed to be some 4 hr. visits, then some 8 hr. visits, then some overnights, then moving him in with us. Well, this past Saturday we find out that she had not informed (supposedly) his current foster mom of this. She had gotten all bent out of shape when we didn't have him back 4 hrs later. Apparently they'd had plans to go out to the lake. Well, sorrrrry! Don't make plans on Saturdays, stupid bitch...they know that's OUR time with him. SO....MrKB told the caseworker that she needs to step in and make some sort of official arrangement on the visits so they don't have all the control. She said that she'd really like to see him start spending weekends with us. That'd be great, so hopefully that is what it will be from now on, us getting him all weekend.
She also said that she is trying to find 5yr old a different therapist. She feels like this one is leaning too much toward his foster parents. She is not, I guess NEUTRAL enough for this case anymore. I tend to agree. We'll see what happens with that.
Didn't get a chance to ask her about what her reasoning is for wanting us to take more parenting classes. She didn't bring it up either. Hopefully it won't come up anymore, because we don't need them!!
That's all I got on that front. As for today, I need to clean my house and do some laundry. Bleh...*whine* I don't wanna!! MrKB ain't gonna do it though...so guess I gotta. Sigh....After we'd got home from the counseling, I was in a pissy mood the rest of the day. I think I still am kinda. Maybe tonight I'll have me some tequila after the girls are asleep....maybe before...after all MrKB is perfectly capable of getting them into jammies and to bed!
Anyway, we didn't end up talking to our lawyer yesterday. The DHS caseworker is supposed to be putting together a "Grand Staffing" meeting for the 14th...this is a meeting with EVERYONE involved, except maybe the judge. We're going to see how things go with that first, then if we need to we'll get the lawyer involved.
The therapist...I really don't know about her...Seems like everytime we go up there for a counseling appointment, she only talks to us for a few minutes then leaves the room for most of the hour to let us "play" with 5yr old. I know she's just going on the other side of the one-way mirror and observing. Fine. But is it really necessary every time we go to these appointments?
She doesn't get to see me interact with him much. It's not that I don't, it's just I know she's watching, ya know? MrKB does typical boy stuff with him while we're there. What am I gonna do? Ask him if he wants to play Barbies?? It's a little more difficult for me to find something to do with a little boy. I'm used to girls! But I digress...
The therapist keeps saying "they" are concerned about my "bonding" with 5yr old. Apparently he will talk about MrKB, but doesn't say anything about me. SO???? To them this means we're not bonding, I guess. I think they are making a big deal out of nothing, myself. I'M not worried about "bonding" with him...Once he lives with us permanently, I will be the one he is around most of the time, since MrKB goes off to work everyday. We will bond just fine. What difference does it make if it's now or after he lives with us?!? I don't understand people sometimes. It's not like I don't do anything at all with this child. We decorated Halloween cookies, we've colored in color books together...etc. Personally, I think this therapist has developed too much of a bond herself with 5yr old and his foster mother. She keeps saying how "attached" he is to his current foster mom. Yeah, of course he is, he's been there a little over a year. But I bet she didn't have to "bond" with him before DHS moved him in with HER. Hell no...she did all the bonding AFTER he was there. One thing I should have thought to mention to the therapist...5yr old has NEVER talked about his current foster mom when he is with us. Wonder what she would have thought about that!
Anyway...MrKB also called and talked to the DHS caseworker yesterday. We have been doing Saturday visits for quite awhile now with 5yr old...was supposed to be some 4 hr. visits, then some 8 hr. visits, then some overnights, then moving him in with us. Well, this past Saturday we find out that she had not informed (supposedly) his current foster mom of this. She had gotten all bent out of shape when we didn't have him back 4 hrs later. Apparently they'd had plans to go out to the lake. Well, sorrrrry! Don't make plans on Saturdays, stupid bitch...they know that's OUR time with him. SO....MrKB told the caseworker that she needs to step in and make some sort of official arrangement on the visits so they don't have all the control. She said that she'd really like to see him start spending weekends with us. That'd be great, so hopefully that is what it will be from now on, us getting him all weekend.
She also said that she is trying to find 5yr old a different therapist. She feels like this one is leaning too much toward his foster parents. She is not, I guess NEUTRAL enough for this case anymore. I tend to agree. We'll see what happens with that.
Didn't get a chance to ask her about what her reasoning is for wanting us to take more parenting classes. She didn't bring it up either. Hopefully it won't come up anymore, because we don't need them!!
That's all I got on that front. As for today, I need to clean my house and do some laundry. Bleh...*whine* I don't wanna!! MrKB ain't gonna do it though...so guess I gotta. Sigh....After we'd got home from the counseling, I was in a pissy mood the rest of the day. I think I still am kinda. Maybe tonight I'll have me some tequila after the girls are asleep....maybe before...after all MrKB is perfectly capable of getting them into jammies and to bed!
Sunday, November 06, 2005
Saw This at April's...So Close It's Spooky
Dominant Personality: Calm
Good Traits: You prefer to be exclusive,
limiting yourself to only a few good friends
that you've probably known for a long time. You
don't date around either; you settle down with
one guy, and you never get used to heartbreak.
Bad Traits: You're someone who doesn't want
to be bothered with everyone else's problems.
You'd rather kick back and enjoy life at a slow
pace. You tend to fall behind and procrastinate
from being too laid back.
People see you as: Shy, slow to catch on,
and a daydreamer. People think you're in your
own little world and are tenative to approach
you.
You're Most Like: Fear. You distance
yourself from the people who aren't in your
circle. The difference is that you aren't
paranoid about this.
You Need More: Understanding. There are
other people out there worth knowing. It's okay
to broaden your variety.
What's your dominant trait? (10 unique results)
My Weekend
Saturday was a busy day! First we went and picked up 5yr old for a visit...then we went across town to a Mickey D's to meet up with the kids' older 11yr old sister and her Grandpa to visit with them for awhile. By then it was almost 12:30pm and we were takin' our time since it was such a beautiful day. We had gone out to the parking lot and loaded all the kids in the van, and we were standing outside having a cig before we took off...All of a sudden, MrKB starts to say something about his Mom, then goes "OH, SHIT!! Mom has a wedding to go to at 1:00!! WE GOTTA GO!" ( I had told her we'd watch her kids while her and hubby went to this wedding...had completely forgotten this fact.)
So we jump in the van and stop by a phone to call her and tell her we're on our way...nobody home. Crap. Get home as fast as we can and hope she's not standing outside our door with the kids, being pissed off at us for not being home. Got home...no Mom...oh man, she's gonna be maaaad! Then we hear the kids calling us...Mom had left them with our next-door neighbors until we got there. Okay, no problem. Gathered 'em all up and went inside for a bit.
Now we've got 5 kiddos with us. Decide we're gonna go to the park for awhile...well, I was hoping MrKB would take them and just leave me and baby girl at home, but no such luck. Then he tells the neighbor kids they can go with us...2 more! So now there's 7 kids. Sigh...We go to the park for about an hour and a half, kids have a great time, then we go back home.
By the way, sometime between this weekend and last weekend 5yr old learned to ride his bike without his training wheels! I'm so proud! Seems he pretty much jumped on one of his foster brothers' bikes and just took off, so we took the training wheels off the bike he has here. : )
MrKB had to take 5yr old back to his foster home by 6...he went by himself and I stayed back with the rest of the kids in case his Mom came by to pick them up. They got there about 6:45.
Got them to return the favor by taking our 2 little ones for the night, so MrKB and I got to go out just the two of us and have some fun. We went out to Shawnee to the casino with about 100 bucks and played for a few hours. Lost all our money, but still had a good time. Headed back home and prolly got back around 12:30am. When we walked in the door, MrKB says "Listen, do ya hear that?" I said "Yep, blissful silence!" Last night was the first time in quite awhile that I got to take off my hearing aid to sleep for more than just 3 or 4 hours...usually I have to put it on when MrKB goes off to work at 5:30 in the morning so I can hear the girls over the baby monitor. I went to bed around 1:30 or 2am and didn't wake up until almost 11:30! Amazing...
Not only that, but when I woke up I could smell bacon cooking! Mmmmm...nothing like waking up to that particular smell! I had to go to the bathroom, so I went, then I go into the kitchen to get a can of Coke. (My caffeine...hate coffee) He looks at me and says "You ain't supposed to be up yet! It's hard to fix you breakfast in bed if you're up already!" Awwwww, how sweet is that?!? Trust me, though...it's a rare thing!
Went to go pick up the girls from MIL's around 1...Decided to see if we could find a few garage sales around, but didn't really find any. I suggested going to the mall, even if just to walk around and look at stuff. Did see a belly ring I wanted...it was a purple butterfly w/ dangling gems, but it was 14 bucks and I just couldn't do it right now...bummer. I have a birthday coming up pretty soon, maybe MrKB will remember I wanted it and go back and get it for me.
Stayed at the mall 'til they closed at 6, then went and ate at a Chinese buffet for dinner. Got home by 8:30, put 2 yr old on the potty (amazingly, she was dry!!) then got her in jammies and to bed. She was exhausted after all that walking around, and besides, she hadn't got her nap today. Got baby girl changed into jammies and fed...now she is in the Pack-n-Play just babbling away to herself. Hopefully she will be asleep soon too. MrKB turned on the t.v. to watch some Dungeons and Dragons movie on the SciFi channel, but he's all crashed out on the couch now...sound asleep...remote control in his hand.
Tomorrow we've got to call a lawyer to see about getting the adoption process started on the girls and to see if he can help move things along with the 5yr old. Also going to be calling the caseworker's supervisor. We're tired of her crap, and her saying one thing then doing another. Did I mention she wants us to take more parenting classes? WTF?!? So we also want to find out her reasoning for that. We may possibly see if we can just get a new caseworker for the kids entirely. I'll let ya know how that goes...Oh yeah, we also have an appointment with 5yr old and his therapist tomorrow afternoon...Sigh...
So we jump in the van and stop by a phone to call her and tell her we're on our way...nobody home. Crap. Get home as fast as we can and hope she's not standing outside our door with the kids, being pissed off at us for not being home. Got home...no Mom...oh man, she's gonna be maaaad! Then we hear the kids calling us...Mom had left them with our next-door neighbors until we got there. Okay, no problem. Gathered 'em all up and went inside for a bit.
Now we've got 5 kiddos with us. Decide we're gonna go to the park for awhile...well, I was hoping MrKB would take them and just leave me and baby girl at home, but no such luck. Then he tells the neighbor kids they can go with us...2 more! So now there's 7 kids. Sigh...We go to the park for about an hour and a half, kids have a great time, then we go back home.
By the way, sometime between this weekend and last weekend 5yr old learned to ride his bike without his training wheels! I'm so proud! Seems he pretty much jumped on one of his foster brothers' bikes and just took off, so we took the training wheels off the bike he has here. : )
MrKB had to take 5yr old back to his foster home by 6...he went by himself and I stayed back with the rest of the kids in case his Mom came by to pick them up. They got there about 6:45.
Got them to return the favor by taking our 2 little ones for the night, so MrKB and I got to go out just the two of us and have some fun. We went out to Shawnee to the casino with about 100 bucks and played for a few hours. Lost all our money, but still had a good time. Headed back home and prolly got back around 12:30am. When we walked in the door, MrKB says "Listen, do ya hear that?" I said "Yep, blissful silence!" Last night was the first time in quite awhile that I got to take off my hearing aid to sleep for more than just 3 or 4 hours...usually I have to put it on when MrKB goes off to work at 5:30 in the morning so I can hear the girls over the baby monitor. I went to bed around 1:30 or 2am and didn't wake up until almost 11:30! Amazing...
Not only that, but when I woke up I could smell bacon cooking! Mmmmm...nothing like waking up to that particular smell! I had to go to the bathroom, so I went, then I go into the kitchen to get a can of Coke. (My caffeine...hate coffee) He looks at me and says "You ain't supposed to be up yet! It's hard to fix you breakfast in bed if you're up already!" Awwwww, how sweet is that?!? Trust me, though...it's a rare thing!
Went to go pick up the girls from MIL's around 1...Decided to see if we could find a few garage sales around, but didn't really find any. I suggested going to the mall, even if just to walk around and look at stuff. Did see a belly ring I wanted...it was a purple butterfly w/ dangling gems, but it was 14 bucks and I just couldn't do it right now...bummer. I have a birthday coming up pretty soon, maybe MrKB will remember I wanted it and go back and get it for me.
Stayed at the mall 'til they closed at 6, then went and ate at a Chinese buffet for dinner. Got home by 8:30, put 2 yr old on the potty (amazingly, she was dry!!) then got her in jammies and to bed. She was exhausted after all that walking around, and besides, she hadn't got her nap today. Got baby girl changed into jammies and fed...now she is in the Pack-n-Play just babbling away to herself. Hopefully she will be asleep soon too. MrKB turned on the t.v. to watch some Dungeons and Dragons movie on the SciFi channel, but he's all crashed out on the couch now...sound asleep...remote control in his hand.
Tomorrow we've got to call a lawyer to see about getting the adoption process started on the girls and to see if he can help move things along with the 5yr old. Also going to be calling the caseworker's supervisor. We're tired of her crap, and her saying one thing then doing another. Did I mention she wants us to take more parenting classes? WTF?!? So we also want to find out her reasoning for that. We may possibly see if we can just get a new caseworker for the kids entirely. I'll let ya know how that goes...Oh yeah, we also have an appointment with 5yr old and his therapist tomorrow afternoon...Sigh...
Saturday, November 05, 2005
Baby Girl's Gettin' So BIG!!
Today is the first time baby girl sat up by herself for a good length of time! Before, she could sit up for a few seconds, then she'd tip over...Now she's figured out how to balance herself so that doesn't happen. She still doesn't get herself in the sitting position, but if you sit her up she does so well!!
Mama is so proud!
Friday, November 04, 2005
So It's Friday
I was going to have my friend and her boys over for dinner and spend the night tonight, but it looks like that's not gonna happen. MrKB just called a little while ago and he is still out in Ada, which is 100 or so miles away. He's still got two more stops to make after that, so he won't be home until probably 10:00pm. Poor guy...he goes to work at 6am! He has days like this at least once every other week. Just really sucks it's gonna be tonight...
Anyway, haven't posted a whole lot the last few days, so let's see what news I have...
Took our 2yr old trick-or-treating on Halloween. She was so cute! She wasn't quite sure what to think about it at first, but soon got the hang of it once she figured out she was getting candy by going up to these strange houses and knocking on the door. Whenever people would come to the door with a bowl full of candy and either give her a few pieces or just hold the bowl out to her, she started grabbing several handfuls...she'd get a handful, put it in her little bucket, then do it again a couple more times. I was like "Oh my gosh.." But most people just chuckled and didn't seem to mind. Guess that's what happens when you're 2 years old and cute.
Most of my week has been pretty boring...stay home, clean house, take care of the kids, cook, etc...
Last Friday we had to go to a birthday dinner for my Granddad...got to see all the relatives that you mostly only see at big family things, even though some of them live right here in the city. A funny thing that happened...MrKB was talking to one of my cousins outside while having a smoke, and found out that her boyfriend works at the same trucking company he does. This company is not a real big company, so it was one of those "small world" kinda moments.
Had the DHS caseworker come out the other day...Halloween, actually...she didn't show up until after 6pm, so we got a late start on our activities for the night. I wish she'd just rescheduled for the next day or something. Anyway, she talked to us about what 5yr old's foster parents had said...get this...SHE said herself that our home doesn't smell like smoke. But then a little later said "well, it kinda does smell like smoke a little bit". WHAT?!? I'd like to know HOW, since we smoke outside. I personally think she convinced herself she smelled it, because I've had several people come in to ask them if they thought it smelled like smoke and they all said no. I will be so glad when all this is over and we get these kids adopted and DHS is out of the picture.
Let's see...what else? God, I have such a boring life! If we had more than one vehicle, I could at least maybe go out and do SOMETHING with my time...go to the gym, maybe a movie now and then...something.
OH! I wanted to say a big THANK YOU to all of y'all that stopped by my place yesterday, and especially to the ones who left comments! Y'all are great! I really didn't expect such a response, and I am flattered, really! HNT sure makes me look forward to Thursdays...Oh, and I could have SWORN that I included info in that post for people to click on the HNT button and see what it's all about...but I had tried to post it sooo many times before I finally got the pics where
I wanted them, it might have been on one of the previous tries. Osbasso, I promise I will next time!!
Speaking of referring people...if ya haven't already, you need to get on over to Femi-mommy's blog and tell all about your fears for "Fears Friday"...I don't know how to link yet, but if ya click on "Random Thoughts and Confessions of an Urban Woman" over there in my blogroll, it'll take ya where ya need to go.
Sorry I really don't have much to talk about right now...not in a very good mood now anyway since MrKB called...he's had a shitty day and I just know he's gonna be in a shitty mood when he finally does get home. I was also hoping we'd be able to go buy some steaks for the grill for dinner tonight, but I guess I will be fixin' something here instead.
Anyway, haven't posted a whole lot the last few days, so let's see what news I have...
Took our 2yr old trick-or-treating on Halloween. She was so cute! She wasn't quite sure what to think about it at first, but soon got the hang of it once she figured out she was getting candy by going up to these strange houses and knocking on the door. Whenever people would come to the door with a bowl full of candy and either give her a few pieces or just hold the bowl out to her, she started grabbing several handfuls...she'd get a handful, put it in her little bucket, then do it again a couple more times. I was like "Oh my gosh.." But most people just chuckled and didn't seem to mind. Guess that's what happens when you're 2 years old and cute.
Most of my week has been pretty boring...stay home, clean house, take care of the kids, cook, etc...
Last Friday we had to go to a birthday dinner for my Granddad...got to see all the relatives that you mostly only see at big family things, even though some of them live right here in the city. A funny thing that happened...MrKB was talking to one of my cousins outside while having a smoke, and found out that her boyfriend works at the same trucking company he does. This company is not a real big company, so it was one of those "small world" kinda moments.
Had the DHS caseworker come out the other day...Halloween, actually...she didn't show up until after 6pm, so we got a late start on our activities for the night. I wish she'd just rescheduled for the next day or something. Anyway, she talked to us about what 5yr old's foster parents had said...get this...SHE said herself that our home doesn't smell like smoke. But then a little later said "well, it kinda does smell like smoke a little bit". WHAT?!? I'd like to know HOW, since we smoke outside. I personally think she convinced herself she smelled it, because I've had several people come in to ask them if they thought it smelled like smoke and they all said no. I will be so glad when all this is over and we get these kids adopted and DHS is out of the picture.
Let's see...what else? God, I have such a boring life! If we had more than one vehicle, I could at least maybe go out and do SOMETHING with my time...go to the gym, maybe a movie now and then...something.
OH! I wanted to say a big THANK YOU to all of y'all that stopped by my place yesterday, and especially to the ones who left comments! Y'all are great! I really didn't expect such a response, and I am flattered, really! HNT sure makes me look forward to Thursdays...Oh, and I could have SWORN that I included info in that post for people to click on the HNT button and see what it's all about...but I had tried to post it sooo many times before I finally got the pics where
I wanted them, it might have been on one of the previous tries. Osbasso, I promise I will next time!!
Speaking of referring people...if ya haven't already, you need to get on over to Femi-mommy's blog and tell all about your fears for "Fears Friday"...I don't know how to link yet, but if ya click on "Random Thoughts and Confessions of an Urban Woman" over there in my blogroll, it'll take ya where ya need to go.
Sorry I really don't have much to talk about right now...not in a very good mood now anyway since MrKB called...he's had a shitty day and I just know he's gonna be in a shitty mood when he finally does get home. I was also hoping we'd be able to go buy some steaks for the grill for dinner tonight, but I guess I will be fixin' something here instead.
Wednesday, November 02, 2005
My Third Half-Nekkid Thursday
For this, my third HNT, I decided to jump on the "be bold" bandwagon. By nature I am a VERY shy person, so this is truly brave for me.
I am not a "skinny bitch", and probably never will be. I'm okay with this, 'cuz I have a wonderful husband who loves me just the way I am! He came up with the idea for these pics, and he took the pictures.
So, without further ado...I give you...MY BELLY! Please be gentle! :)
I am not a "skinny bitch", and probably never will be. I'm okay with this, 'cuz I have a wonderful husband who loves me just the way I am! He came up with the idea for these pics, and he took the pictures.
So, without further ado...I give you...MY BELLY! Please be gentle! :)
WOOOHOOO I Did It!!
Yippeee! I finally figured out the blogroll thing...See?----> Ain't it pretty? LOL
Boy, I've got a long list...no wonder it takes me so long to read 'em every day!
I also managed to get one of those HNT buttons up. Now when I post HNT I can refer people to what it's all about. :)
Whew...
Boy, I've got a long list...no wonder it takes me so long to read 'em every day!
I also managed to get one of those HNT buttons up. Now when I post HNT I can refer people to what it's all about. :)
Whew...
This is Driving Me Nuts!!
Every time I look at my blog now I think to myself "What the hell did you think you were doing?!?" All I wanted to do was get a blogroll of my own so I could put all these wonderful blogs I read every day on my page instead of in my Favorites.
Not only did I not accomplish this, but now everything that was on the right is way at the bottom....nobody's gonna scroll all the way down just to read that!
Please, PLEASE....If someone out there knows how to fix this, please tell me! And if anyone wants to volunteer to add blogroll for me, please go right ahead! If you don't know how, but know someone who's a wiz at this kinda thing, send them my way. I would greatly appreciate any help!
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*Blink Blink*
Just stopped by to see if I had any responses yet....LOOKIE THERE!!! ----------> Everything on the right has MAGICALLY reappeared where it should be!!! YAY! That looks much better!
I wonder what happened....
Not only did I not accomplish this, but now everything that was on the right is way at the bottom....nobody's gonna scroll all the way down just to read that!
Please, PLEASE....If someone out there knows how to fix this, please tell me! And if anyone wants to volunteer to add blogroll for me, please go right ahead! If you don't know how, but know someone who's a wiz at this kinda thing, send them my way. I would greatly appreciate any help!
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*Blink Blink*
Just stopped by to see if I had any responses yet....LOOKIE THERE!!! ----------> Everything on the right has MAGICALLY reappeared where it should be!!! YAY! That looks much better!
I wonder what happened....
Tuesday, November 01, 2005
Well Now I've Screwed It All Up
See what happens when I go trying to change things on my blog?!?
Tried adding blogroll...first time I tried, nothing happened...this time I tried pasting the code in my links section as advised by Tammy, and apparently I must have put it in the wrong place again!! Or something...
Now my picture, profile and everything else on the right side is waaaay down there....Help!
Tried adding blogroll...first time I tried, nothing happened...this time I tried pasting the code in my links section as advised by Tammy, and apparently I must have put it in the wrong place again!! Or something...
Now my picture, profile and everything else on the right side is waaaay down there....Help!
Monday, October 31, 2005
My Halloween Pics
Whew...I'm just barely gonna get these in ON Halloween. Pics of my girls and my pumpkin!
Darn it...only had like 20 mins to get these posted so they'd be on Oct. 31...by the time the pics got loaded I guess it was after midnight. Phooey. And why aren't they posting where I wanted them?!?
Oh well...
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Ok, so I signed up for a blogrolling accout so I can get more organized and also add a little somethin' to my blog. Only prob...I know NOTHING about HTML or java. I attempted to copy and paste to get it started but it didn't show up. Where exactly am I supposed to paste it to?!?!
I know there's gotta be someone out there in blogland who can help me with this! Sigh...I feel like such an amateur....
Saturday, October 29, 2005
The Trials and Tribulations of Being a Foster Parent
Ok, first I'll start here by telling you a bit of what's been going on since April of this year.
MrKB was a long haul truck driver working for a major company and I rode along with him on his rig. We had been doing this for over two years. We basically lived on the truck...we didn't have a house or apartment...it didn't make sense to rent someplace we were only gonna be at MAYBE two days a month. We would stay out for months at a time, and when we did come in for days off, we'd stay either with friends or at one of our parent's homes.
So anyway...we came into the city for a few days off back in April. Had something like four days off, then we had gone to Ardmore to pick up a load. Between picking up the load and heading back toward OKC, MrKB gets a call on his cell saying his Dad is in the hospital and they think he had a heart attack. We immediately call his company and they tell us to just bring the load to the yard and someone else will take it to where it needed to go. We do this, and then go see his Dad.
A day or so later we're at his Dad's house when his brother calls. At this point in time we hadn't seen or talked to him in about 2 years. Well, he says that him and his girlfriend are losing their parental rights and would we be willing to take the kids, including their baby girl who'd just been born about 2 1/2 weeks before. We said we'd talk about it and get back with him. Keep in mind that between the two of them they have SEVEN kids, and don't have a one of them.
So...probably the next day we go meet them somewhere to discuss all this. BIL is a mess...drunk off his ass and crying his eyes out...though I can't say that I blame him, if I'd just found I was losing my kids for good, I'd be drunk and crying too. We discuss the situation with them and at first we were only going to take the baby, but they begged us to take 2 yr old and 5 yr old also. There is another little girl who is unfortunately a meth baby with serious problems...she is almost 2 yrs old now and baby girl (who is 6 mos) has passed her developmentally. I just can't deal with that, and go from having no kids at all to 3. Ok, that's 4 of their kids. Her oldest from a previous relationship is staying with her grandparents, and his two oldest have been adopted by my MIL. We are working on getting 3 of them adopted.
Of course, all these kids are in DHS custody, and we've been subjected to every background check, home check, you name it. We went through the required parenting classes, got a 3 bedroom apartment within a month of finding out all this...we've done every thing we've been asked to do and more.
We brought baby girl home from the hospital where she'd been since she was born when she was 3 weeks old. All we had to do to get her was pass a background check. We got 2 yr old at the end of June. Had a few visits with her and then they moved her right in. No problems! They are healthy, happy, and well taken care of...DHS has said this themselves. We were supposed to have 5 yr old in with us by the end of July. Has it happened?? NO! Which brings me to the point of this post.
5 yr old is currently in a "therapeutic foster home" due to his severe asthma, eczema, allergies, and developmental delays. All that means is those foster parents underwent additional training on top of the required training. BUT...he is not the only child they have.
I don't like these people.
They're the type that act all nice to your face, then talk shit behind your back.
First...when we were supposed to start having regular visits w/ 5 yr old to get him "used" to us and get ready to move him to our home, these people were never available...didn't return calls, didn't show up for court ordered visits between all siblings, that kinda thing. Finally I got fed up with that and finally the case worker made a set time for visits. We were going to have a few four hour visits, then some eight hour visits, then some overnights, THEN they'd move him in.
EVERY fuckin' time we had a visit with him, his other foster parents were finding some stupid thing to go to the case worker with. We brought him back late...he peed his pants twice after a visit...we brought him back "soiled"...he's FIVE people. Definitely potty trained. Over and over it's stuff like that. One time I was talking to the foster mom on the phone about a visit, and we were just chatting. We are in the process of potty training 2 yr old, and the day before she'd stayed dry all day. I was relating this fact to her (because I was proud she'd stayed dry, so I was bragging) and she took it to mean that 2 yr old hadn't gone to the bathroom AT ALL and that I must not have given her anything to drink!!! Instead of asking me to clarify this, she went to the caseworker!!! GOD!
Oh, I need to add that his current foster parents were wanting to adopt him and were gonna fight us for him in court. But then (at least they TOLD us this) they decided they weren't going to fight for him.
Anyway...
We had him for a few hours today...We were also supposed to have a "family team meeting" (one of the 'and more' stuff we've been doing) but we cancelled it 'cuz both of us are not feeling real well.
While MrKB was talking to our counselor, she told him that his foster parents (actually it's always the foster mom) had yet again gone to the case worker about 5 yr old. THIS time, when we took him home last weekend after he spent the whole weekend with us, "his clothes smelled like smoke, his inhaler smelled like smoke, his breathing machine smelled like smoke...and when we washed his clothes we didn't use the special soap he has to have so he broke out in a rash...yadda yadda yadda."
I've about had it with this bitch.
First of all, yes, we smoke. We smoke strictly OUTSIDE..one of the many things DHS wanted us to do. Tell me, how in the HELL was his breathing machine and inhaler exposed to any smoke at all?? The machine was kept in a bag until it had to be used, then put up right after. The inhaler was in the kitchen on top of the microwave INSIDE A ZIPLOC BAG! I am so pissed off it's not even funny. I think that his foster parents DO still want to adopt him, but if they think we're gonna just relax and assume that's not gonna happen, they're wrong. I personally think they are just trying to find any little thing to make us look bad the next time we go to court over this.
Because of all their bullshit, DHS is dragging their ass on getting him with us. It's always something else they want us to do before they move him in with us. I'm sick of it. They had no problems letting us pick up a 3 week old baby from the hospital...no problems moving 2 yr old in after just a FEW visits. WTF is the problem with this one?!? Why would we be good enough to be the parents of his sisters but not him?
We are calling a lawyer Monday. We go back to court Nov. 17th. Maybe he can help us. I'm tired of all the bullshit and lies.
MrKB was a long haul truck driver working for a major company and I rode along with him on his rig. We had been doing this for over two years. We basically lived on the truck...we didn't have a house or apartment...it didn't make sense to rent someplace we were only gonna be at MAYBE two days a month. We would stay out for months at a time, and when we did come in for days off, we'd stay either with friends or at one of our parent's homes.
So anyway...we came into the city for a few days off back in April. Had something like four days off, then we had gone to Ardmore to pick up a load. Between picking up the load and heading back toward OKC, MrKB gets a call on his cell saying his Dad is in the hospital and they think he had a heart attack. We immediately call his company and they tell us to just bring the load to the yard and someone else will take it to where it needed to go. We do this, and then go see his Dad.
A day or so later we're at his Dad's house when his brother calls. At this point in time we hadn't seen or talked to him in about 2 years. Well, he says that him and his girlfriend are losing their parental rights and would we be willing to take the kids, including their baby girl who'd just been born about 2 1/2 weeks before. We said we'd talk about it and get back with him. Keep in mind that between the two of them they have SEVEN kids, and don't have a one of them.
So...probably the next day we go meet them somewhere to discuss all this. BIL is a mess...drunk off his ass and crying his eyes out...though I can't say that I blame him, if I'd just found I was losing my kids for good, I'd be drunk and crying too. We discuss the situation with them and at first we were only going to take the baby, but they begged us to take 2 yr old and 5 yr old also. There is another little girl who is unfortunately a meth baby with serious problems...she is almost 2 yrs old now and baby girl (who is 6 mos) has passed her developmentally. I just can't deal with that, and go from having no kids at all to 3. Ok, that's 4 of their kids. Her oldest from a previous relationship is staying with her grandparents, and his two oldest have been adopted by my MIL. We are working on getting 3 of them adopted.
Of course, all these kids are in DHS custody, and we've been subjected to every background check, home check, you name it. We went through the required parenting classes, got a 3 bedroom apartment within a month of finding out all this...we've done every thing we've been asked to do and more.
We brought baby girl home from the hospital where she'd been since she was born when she was 3 weeks old. All we had to do to get her was pass a background check. We got 2 yr old at the end of June. Had a few visits with her and then they moved her right in. No problems! They are healthy, happy, and well taken care of...DHS has said this themselves. We were supposed to have 5 yr old in with us by the end of July. Has it happened?? NO! Which brings me to the point of this post.
5 yr old is currently in a "therapeutic foster home" due to his severe asthma, eczema, allergies, and developmental delays. All that means is those foster parents underwent additional training on top of the required training. BUT...he is not the only child they have.
I don't like these people.
They're the type that act all nice to your face, then talk shit behind your back.
First...when we were supposed to start having regular visits w/ 5 yr old to get him "used" to us and get ready to move him to our home, these people were never available...didn't return calls, didn't show up for court ordered visits between all siblings, that kinda thing. Finally I got fed up with that and finally the case worker made a set time for visits. We were going to have a few four hour visits, then some eight hour visits, then some overnights, THEN they'd move him in.
EVERY fuckin' time we had a visit with him, his other foster parents were finding some stupid thing to go to the case worker with. We brought him back late...he peed his pants twice after a visit...we brought him back "soiled"...he's FIVE people. Definitely potty trained. Over and over it's stuff like that. One time I was talking to the foster mom on the phone about a visit, and we were just chatting. We are in the process of potty training 2 yr old, and the day before she'd stayed dry all day. I was relating this fact to her (because I was proud she'd stayed dry, so I was bragging) and she took it to mean that 2 yr old hadn't gone to the bathroom AT ALL and that I must not have given her anything to drink!!! Instead of asking me to clarify this, she went to the caseworker!!! GOD!
Oh, I need to add that his current foster parents were wanting to adopt him and were gonna fight us for him in court. But then (at least they TOLD us this) they decided they weren't going to fight for him.
Anyway...
We had him for a few hours today...We were also supposed to have a "family team meeting" (one of the 'and more' stuff we've been doing) but we cancelled it 'cuz both of us are not feeling real well.
While MrKB was talking to our counselor, she told him that his foster parents (actually it's always the foster mom) had yet again gone to the case worker about 5 yr old. THIS time, when we took him home last weekend after he spent the whole weekend with us, "his clothes smelled like smoke, his inhaler smelled like smoke, his breathing machine smelled like smoke...and when we washed his clothes we didn't use the special soap he has to have so he broke out in a rash...yadda yadda yadda."
I've about had it with this bitch.
First of all, yes, we smoke. We smoke strictly OUTSIDE..one of the many things DHS wanted us to do. Tell me, how in the HELL was his breathing machine and inhaler exposed to any smoke at all?? The machine was kept in a bag until it had to be used, then put up right after. The inhaler was in the kitchen on top of the microwave INSIDE A ZIPLOC BAG! I am so pissed off it's not even funny. I think that his foster parents DO still want to adopt him, but if they think we're gonna just relax and assume that's not gonna happen, they're wrong. I personally think they are just trying to find any little thing to make us look bad the next time we go to court over this.
Because of all their bullshit, DHS is dragging their ass on getting him with us. It's always something else they want us to do before they move him in with us. I'm sick of it. They had no problems letting us pick up a 3 week old baby from the hospital...no problems moving 2 yr old in after just a FEW visits. WTF is the problem with this one?!? Why would we be good enough to be the parents of his sisters but not him?
We are calling a lawyer Monday. We go back to court Nov. 17th. Maybe he can help us. I'm tired of all the bullshit and lies.
Wednesday, October 26, 2005
My Second Half-Nekkid Thursday
Okay, so I know it's early, but I have company tonight and wanted to get this in early.
I know there's a Halloween theme this week, but I don't have any Halloween pics....This is pretty scary though. It's a pic of MrKB's leg after he got hurt at work. He's a truck driver and was making a delivery at this store that failed to put the safety plate down between the dock and the trailer. MrKB ended up stepping off into the gap and got a sprained wrist and this:
Pretty scary, huh???? He did this back at the end of June, and STILL has a bruise from the middle of the circle-looking mark. Yeesh!
I know there's a Halloween theme this week, but I don't have any Halloween pics....This is pretty scary though. It's a pic of MrKB's leg after he got hurt at work. He's a truck driver and was making a delivery at this store that failed to put the safety plate down between the dock and the trailer. MrKB ended up stepping off into the gap and got a sprained wrist and this:
Pretty scary, huh???? He did this back at the end of June, and STILL has a bruise from the middle of the circle-looking mark. Yeesh!
Tuesday, October 25, 2005
These Are a Few of My Favorite Things
Not feeling very creative again today...really not much news either. I spent most of the day cleaning my house, ooooo how exciting!! NOT. So I thought I would tell a little about myself by listing some of my favorite things. Here I go...
Favorite Drink: Coke Classic (I'm hopelessly addicted!)
Favorite Food: at the moment it's Fettucine Alfredo w/ chicken and broccoli
Favorite Restaurant: Red Lobster
Favorite Movie: Legends of the Fall
Favorite Author: Stephen King
Favorite Actor: Brad Pitt (soooo sexy in Troy)
Favorite Actress: Jodie Foster
Favorite TV Show: ER...also love Desperate Housewives
Favorite Color: Purple (MrKB loves me enough he let me paint our bedroom purple!)
Favorite Season: Spring
Favorite Holiday: Valentine's Day (got married VDay 1995)
Favorite Book: The Green Mile by Stephen King...or any by him really
Favorite Thing to Do: hit the casinos baby! (winning is a bonus...still love to go)
Favorite Person: My husband
Favorite Hobby: Crosstiching
Favorite Car: '68 or '69 Camaro
That's all I can think of...if ya wanna know more, ask! :)
Favorite Drink: Coke Classic (I'm hopelessly addicted!)
Favorite Food: at the moment it's Fettucine Alfredo w/ chicken and broccoli
Favorite Restaurant: Red Lobster
Favorite Movie: Legends of the Fall
Favorite Author: Stephen King
Favorite Actor: Brad Pitt (soooo sexy in Troy)
Favorite Actress: Jodie Foster
Favorite TV Show: ER...also love Desperate Housewives
Favorite Color: Purple (MrKB loves me enough he let me paint our bedroom purple!)
Favorite Season: Spring
Favorite Holiday: Valentine's Day (got married VDay 1995)
Favorite Book: The Green Mile by Stephen King...or any by him really
Favorite Thing to Do: hit the casinos baby! (winning is a bonus...still love to go)
Favorite Person: My husband
Favorite Hobby: Crosstiching
Favorite Car: '68 or '69 Camaro
That's all I can think of...if ya wanna know more, ask! :)
Monday, October 24, 2005
My Poor Baby Girl!
Today wasn't a very pleasant day...baby girl had to have her 6 month shots. She ended up getting 5 shots all together...4 regular shots and a flu shot. She was definitely NOT happy! Breaks my heart every time it's shot time. Babies are so clueless...just laying there minding their own business, then all of a sudden they're hurting and don't know why. My Mom stayed out in the waiting room w/ my 2 yr old, and she said they could hear baby girl crying all the way out there. 2 yr old was so concerned with that, she went all the way around the reception desk, down the hall and stood in front of the door to the room we were in. Awwwww.
Had 5 yr old with us all weekend. The visit went well...he spent all day Saturday playing outside w/ his cousin and neighborhood kids, so he liked that. Sunday the temperature outside had dropped quite a bit and he wasn't too happy that he couldn't go out to play. He wasn't the only one, though...there were NO kids outside playing since it was so freakin' cold. I'll be glad when we finally get him in our home for good. It's getting tiring having to go back and forth every weekend just to see him for a short time.
I need to get my house cleaned back up. Looks like a hurricane passed through here after having two boys here all weekend. (my nephew stayed over too)....but I just don't feel like it right now, I am tired!
That's all I really have for today. Maybe I'll have more to talk about tomorrow, I dunno....
Had 5 yr old with us all weekend. The visit went well...he spent all day Saturday playing outside w/ his cousin and neighborhood kids, so he liked that. Sunday the temperature outside had dropped quite a bit and he wasn't too happy that he couldn't go out to play. He wasn't the only one, though...there were NO kids outside playing since it was so freakin' cold. I'll be glad when we finally get him in our home for good. It's getting tiring having to go back and forth every weekend just to see him for a short time.
I need to get my house cleaned back up. Looks like a hurricane passed through here after having two boys here all weekend. (my nephew stayed over too)....but I just don't feel like it right now, I am tired!
That's all I really have for today. Maybe I'll have more to talk about tomorrow, I dunno....
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