Monday, November 28, 2005

One Holiday Down...

Whew! I've been so busy the last few days I didn't know if I was coming or going!

Thursday we went to MrKB's Aunt's for Thanksgiving. Ate lots of turkey and all that good stuff. All the kids behaved pretty well for the most part. My dessert I made came out good...not as good as Mom's, but good enough that Aunt Laura proclaimed it to be "orgasmic". LOL

Friday I had to watch my niece and nephew since they were out of school...MrKB was at work so I got to spend the day by myself with 5 kids. I was tired by the end of the day!

Saturday we went to my Grandparents' house in Enid for another Thanksgiving dinner. It was quite pleasant, really. I caught part of the only football game I like to watch on TV....OU Sooners vs. OSU Cowboys...unfortunately my beloved Cowboys got pretty much stomped. :( I think the final score was 42-14. Bleh. Oh, well...at least they scored! So much for this year's Bedlam game. Freakin' Sooners....MrKB was happy though, since that's his team.

We had to leave pretty early from Enid to get 5yr old back home by 6pm. He was pretty good while he was with us, but for the first time, he kept saying he wanted to go home. He's never done that before, so we finally asked him "Don't you like it here?" and he said "No." Asked him, "Has somebody told you that you shouldn't like to be here?" and he said "Yes, Christopher did." Christopher is one of his foster brothers...apparently he is convinced he is his real brother. We told him that he's not...2yr old and baby girl are his real sisters...Christopher is his foster brother, and that's not quite the same. Really pissed us off that he's being told stuff like that.

After we took him home, we took the girls over to MIL's to see if she'd mind watching them for the night, 'cuz we needed a break. She did, so we went out to the casino for awhile (didn't win, but had fun) then went back home, had some tequila and "played". hehehe Yep...good times!

Most of Sunday we spent just being lazy...went and picked up the girls around 4pm...came back home for awhile, got them fed dinner, then we left to go visit MrKB's Dad in the hospital. He's not doing real well now...suffering from depression on top of everything else, worrying about stuff he can't do anything about, generally frustrated at the condition he's in. He has diabetes and cancer...his legs hurt him all the time now, and the cancer has spread to his brain. I think they've quit treating it, but I'm not sure. At this point it seems he's just waiting to die. We took the girls with us to see him, and I think it cheered him up a bit. He worries about 5yr old...really wants to see him placed with us before he goes. He is in the Extended Care section of the Veteran's hospital now...he gets to go home on the weekends, but I know he'd rather be there all the time...just can't because of all the care he needs. It just kills MrKB to see him like this and he's always kinda sad and withdrawn after we visit him. I told him he needs to visit him as much as he can now, no matter how it makes him feel to see him...Dad really needs the visits more than ever. I don't want his Dad to pass away and MrKB have regrets that he should have gone to visit more or talked to him more, or anything like that.

Sigh...all I can do is be there for him while he watches his Dad waste away.

That was pretty much our weekend...2yr old has come down with yet another cold...she's coughing quite a bit and has sniffles and sometimes a bit of a temperature. Sheesh...this is the third one already this winter. God forbid I get sick...

*EDIT*
OMFG!!! 5yr old's foster parents have PISSED ME OFF AGAIN!!!!
Our caseworker just called....apparently we weren't supposed to have him home 'til Sunday at 6pm...just a miscommunication there. What's pissed me off is that "they" claim that he came home smelling like smoke again! There is just NO FUCKING WAY this time. We don't smoke in the van, don't smoke around him...he wasn't exposed to any smoke whatsoever. Matter of fact, we didn't smoke at all while we had him. When we went to Aunt Laura's everyone there who smoked went outside or in the garage, so 5yr old wasn't exposed to it....and that was on Thursday. Also, he supposedly said that me, MrKB and Grandma were smoking in the car. WTF??? Why the hell would we do that?!?! That's just simply not true...he wasn't ever even IN a car with Grandma, so I don't know where the hell he got that from. Yes I do...those people are either just saying he said this bullshit, or they are telling him to say it.

I am so pissed off I am shaking....and now we have to go to a counseling appointment with 5yr old and his foster mom will be there....it's gonna take all my willpower not to smack that bitch upside the head!

15 comments:

ty bluesmith said...

i was going to comment on your post but one of my kids has locked herself in the bathroom and i gotta go do that

MrsCoach2U said...

Sorry to hear about MrMKB's Dad, sometimes the waiting is the worst. My kids have been sick almost constantly for the past 2 months, I think it's the weather. Once it gets cold and stays that way it should be better.

Aisha T. said...

Sorry to hear about MR. MK's Dad. Also, it must be so confusing for 5yr old right now. The poor kid's world sound like it is in a tailspin with people whispering in his ears and he's probably trying to please everyone. Sorry about the uphill battle! A lot going on for you right now AND the holidays. Hang in there!

SignGurl said...

I watched my Father-in-law die from cancer. It was horrible. You poor thing. Like you need another thing on your plate. Try to remember that things will get better. :)

Midwestern City Boy said...

I am very sorry to hear about MrKB's dad. My heart goes out to you and MrKB.

The 5-year old must be really confused; especially with the foster parents putting words in his mouth. They are despicable low lifes to use him like that. I imagine that the caseworker has seen it all before. I hope she is able to see through the lies.

MamaKBear said...

Ty: Hope you got her out!

MrsCoach: So far I'm lucky baby girl hasn't been sick! Thanks for thinking of my FIL.

Aisha: Thanks...and I know! The poor lil guy! I can only wonder what really goes on in his head. I'm hangin' in 'til the end!

Jenn: The thing with FIL has been going on for awhile, on top of all the stuff with 5yr old. I just don't talk about it much, I really don't know what to say, except that it makes me incredibly sad. Things will get better...I sure hope so! Your support means a lot to me.

MCB: Thanks for the kind words! I wish I could be a fly on the wall of their house, so I could know for sure what they say to him. I really hope the caseworker sees through it too...it's maddenly frustrating for us!

MrsCoach2U said...

I just read the added part of the blog entry. If they say he keeps coming back smelling like smoke, I'd febreeze everything, including him right before he went back. Maybe you should see if the caseworker could be there when you bring him back once, to see what kind of shape he's being returned in. Apparently they are grasping at straws. I hope someone thinks twice about putting another child with these people since they do not seem to have their childrens placement with families as their number one priority!

kaliblue said...

Sorry to hear about your father -n- law.. Never easy. Wow!!! these foster parents are really pushing it sounds like. Still hoping all this will be over soon for ya'll :).

MG said...

hope things went ok w/caseworker...it's aggravating when people just try to cause trouble for you by flat out lying!!! I liked mrscoach2u's idea of having the caseworker present to "prove" things, is that possible?

MamaKBear said...

MrsCoach: Thought about the Febreeze idea before, even him, but he's so allergic to a lot of things 'cuz of his excema, that I'm afraid we'd cause him to get a terrible rash or something. As for the foster parents...they've had several other kids come and go since we've been having to deal with them. I think 5yr old brings them more money a month than other kids, but I could be wrong.

Kali: Thanks so much for your continued support sweetie! I will keep y'all updated on things.

MG: Hiya! C'mon in and have a margarita with me! :) Things went better than we thought they would with the counselor...I will prolly blog about it later after I get some stuff done around my house. It might be possible to have the caseworker present, but I don't know if it's worth the trouble. We'll see what happens next time we take him home...

FunkyB said...

Well, at least the Cowboys went into OT, right?

Hope it ALL works out.

BTExpress said...

Wow, you have a very full plate right now. Hang in there and just take it onetry to be strong and we are here for you if you need us. (((((HUG)))))

Kim said...

Try rubbing him down with a bounce sheet. That's what I used to do to freshen up my clothes at college. Sometimes it helps to dampen it.

These people do not sound like nice people.

Chris said...

sorry to hear about your Father In-Law.

Oooh! I would be so damn mad too. These people sound as if they should NOT be foster parents. Hope everything goes well at the appt.

MamaKBear said...

Robin: I wish! Not the Dallas Cowboys..the Oklahoma State Cowboys. Thanks for the support! :)

BTE: Yep, I do..a heaping plate! Thanks for the support and the hug! I love hugs! :)

Kim: Now that's an idea...They are the type of people who are all nice to your face, then talk shit behind your back. Not nice at all.

Chris: Thanks, sweetie! I think they're the type that are in it for the money, but that's just my gut feeling. Appt. went well...I'll post about it soon!